Gabrielle Union was left “ruined” and “broken” after Dwyane Wade confessed to having a baby with another woman.
The former “Being Mary Jane” star recalls the life-changing moment in her new memoir, “You Got Anything Stronger,” and said she and the NBA star were “not in a good place” when the baby was conceived, but were in a “much better one” as she learned the truth.
“To say I was devastated is to choose a word on a low shelf for the sake of convenience. There are people – strangers that I will never meet – who have been sad that I have not talked about that trauma before, “writes Union.
“I have not had words, and even after countless amounts of therapy, I am not sure I have them now. But the truth is important. ”
The “Bring It On” star began dating Wade in 2008, and he had his now 7-year-old son, Xavier, in 2013 while he and Union took a break.
The retired Miami Heat player was also the father of Zaire, 19, and Zaya, 14, as well as the guardian of his nephew, Dahveon, 19. Eventually, Wade and Union married in 2014 and tried to have their own children, which turned out to be a challenge when the Union suffered multiple abortions.
“‘You’ve done enough,” he said. I looked at D with an instant white-hot rage. Wonder, really. I was fighting with my husband about what was best for my body? Did he really think surrogacy and a baby were our chance to correct it? to rebalance? ”Union, 48, recalls in his memoir.
I said coolly, ‘Are you going to be the voice of reason now? Really? Really? Is that what we’re doing today? ‘He looked me in the eyes. ‘As much as we want this baby, I want you,’ he said slowly. ‘We have lost too much in our relationship for me to be okay with encouraging you to do one more thing for your body and your soul.’
The “Moisha” star admits she felt 39-year-old Wade’s words were an “acknowledgment of failure”, even though they were meant by “concern”.
“Because at that time I would have sold my soul for a victory. Getting out of the endless cycle of loss. What was the ongoing rate for souls? What was mine worth anyway? ” she writes.
“The experience of Dwyane getting a baby so easily while I was not able to leave my soul not just broken, but smashed to fine dust scattered in the wind,” she explains. “With desperate hands, we gathered what we could to slowly transform myself into something new.”
Eventually, the couple welcomed daughter Kaavia via surrogate in 2018. They also celebrated their seventh wedding anniversary last month.