An internet thread caught the attention of many after a woman explained how her partner made her pee in one of her cats’ cat trays.
Entitled “AITA to pee in the litter box?”, The viral Reddit post originally appeared on the very popular r / AmITheA ** hole subreddit and has received over 11,000 votes and 1,700 comments. Posted by Redditor u / throwcatpee, the author of the thread admitted that she used a disposal account on Reddit to write the original post and acknowledged that “it’s so embarrassing.”
U / throwcatpee explained that she is diabetic and takes a number of medications, one of which makes her “pee a lot”, u / throwcatpee said that her partner has irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), which sometimes makes him take up the bathroom for 40 minutes or longer. She added that none of their relationship had caused any problems in the past, but said the couple reached a dead end a few days ago.
u / throwcatpee wrote that her partner recently suffered from an intense IBS episode and had been in the bathroom for 40 minutes when she knocked on the door and told him to pee. 20 minutes later, Redditor said she was knocking again and her partner told her he could not leave the bathroom. After another 15 minutes, u / throwcatpee said that her bladder started to hurt and that she was left with one option.
“My bladder hurts and I’m bursting and I figured the cats would forgive me,” she wrote. “I squat over the rubbish bin in the corridor and shake.”
“Then I pick up the trash can and freshen it up completely,” she added.
Frequent urination is closely linked to diabetes and medications that treat it. Due to excess glucose in the blood, diabetics’ kidneys are forced to work overtime to filter and absorb the excess glucose.
According to the Mayo Clinic, when diabetics’ kidneys cannot keep up, excess glucose is excreted in the urine, causing polyuria and potential bladder problems.
Polyuria is a condition that causes the body to urinate more than normal and to pass excessive or abnormally large amounts of urine. Diabetes.co.uk reports that the condition is one of the main symptoms of both type 1 and type 2 diabetes and that if left untreated it can affect kidney function.
While the author of the thread did not specify which diabetes medication she is using, u / throwcatpee acknowledged that one of her prescriptions causes frequent urination and that after waiting over an hour to use the bathroom, she was down to her last resort. Despite her explanation that she had bladder pain, u / throwcatpee said her partner was disgusted by her actions.
“He comes out … and says the bathroom is free and I tell him it’s fine,” she wrote in the viral post. “He gives me a funny look and I tell him what I did. He looks completely disgusted at me and says it’s outrageous.”
“I tried to tell him a number of times that I really needed to go and he said I should learn to keep it better,” she added.
Other Redditors were far more understanding of the situation, and many criticized u / throwcatpee’s partner for his reaction to the embarrassing ordeal.
In the post’s top commenter, which received 27.7K votes, Redditor u / Wren1101 showed their support for u / throwcatpee and accused their partner of upholding standards he cannot keep to himself.
“It’s rich to come from someone with IBS who tells you that ‘you should learn to keep it better,'” they wrote. “It’s completely ridiculous for him to expect from you when he knows he would not be able to do the same. He has double standards. [Not the a**hole]. “
U / GizmaAzara reflected the same feelings and put forward a hypothetical, saying that u / throwcatpee did what they were supposed to in a difficult situation.
“He has IBS. If the situation were reversed, he would have sympathy, and I doubt he would be able to hold it for as long as you had,” they commented.
“So you did what you had to do at best,” they added.
Many more of the thread’s commentators supported the original poster, and as the majority pointed out, u / throwcatpee’s partner showed an obvious lack of care for her condition and toilet needs.
“NTA,” wrote Redditor u / Kvxyo in a comment. “I think it’s more rude that he is aware of your situation and showed no empathy for it.”